January 15th, 2012 
Admin Question by : Why is this guy at work being so rude to me?
I’m the new admin girl for a small visual arts training centre, and the is an intern here, and at first, he was very friendly towards me.
However, after about a month, he kept bugging me with questions about why I am “wasting [my] time” doing admin work. He said that it pains him to see me “lost on life”.
He claims that he wants to care. However, if I didn’t know better I’d say he is merely giving me grief for sport, just because I’m just the lowly admin girl and he is a talented young man with the world of video and film at his feet, and he has no respect for me. However — I don’t see why he has to bug me and give me grief when I am doing nothing but doing the best I can to get by?
He will talk within earshot with another colleague of mine, and talk condescendingly about people “settle down in a job doing mundane things”, and following that up by saying he “believes in chasing the dream”.
What’s his f*cking problem?
He even SMS-es me about this outside of work. wth. so the young, talented, and bored are allowed to basically bully others just because they can? What can i do so he doesn’t just get away with this behavior?
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Answer by mimi
I’m really not too sure what his deal is. However, you should just call him on it the next time it’s just you and him in the room. let him know that you are perfectly happy where you are and that you don’t appreciate him belittling you. and of course if the behaviour continues I then suggest you go to your manager and let them know about it. They can make sure that he does back off. But first I let him know how you feel. usually that will do. I also suspect he’s just a tad bit ignorant and arrogant! lol But no one should be made to feel uncomfortable at work. I,m sure you take great pride in you admin. duties! I know i did when i was doing it. In fact I quite enjoyed that job. So keep doing your best and it won’t go unnoticed!
Good Luck and take care! I hope he eventually sticks his foot in his mouth! then you can have a little chuckle that day!
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People like that are very unhappy in their own lives and so in order to make themselves feel better they pick on others and try to make them feel bad about where they are. What he’s doing is nothing more then another form of bullying. Maybe he doesn’t feel like he’s chasing his own dream, or he feels stuck in his lot and life, but whatever the reasons he feels more secure about himself when he’s insulting others no matter how sugar coated those insults are.
Honestly as long as he isn’t actually harassing you or being rude the best thing you can do is just ignore him. Don’t let him drag you down to his level because seeing you happy and content is going to hurt him more then any insult you could lob his way. And next time he says something to you about being lost in life tell him in a polite and conversational way that you appreciate his concern, but there’s no need for it. That while your job right now might not be glamorous there’s always room to move up and until then you’re working in a field you love. Or something equivalent depending on your situation, I think you get the gist of what I’m saying. In general just be positive and hopefully once he sees he’s not getting to you it won’t be enjoyable for him to target you anymore.
Edit: I don’t know why, but I completely read over where you said he’s messaging you outside of work. If that’s the case then it’s very inappropriate and I would defiantly tell him you don’t appreciate it and to please stop. Don’t be rude and don’t fight with him. If he tries to start a confrontation just go to your manager and tell him what’s going on. The less fuel you put on the fire the worse it will make him look.